Overcoming nerves.

For years our marriage and relationship had been vanilla. In fact our sex life, like so many marriages, had withered to just about nothing. So getting started into bondage games was very hard. Everything seemed to strange and foreign. I was so afraid of embarrassing myself and doing something wrong. Well Ladies, be rest assured, you can't do anything wrong. If this is your mans thing he will be thrilled at anything you do. If there is a danger it is not from not doing to much or going to far but rather from not doing enough.

Having chatted with many serious lifestyle and even professional Mistresses I discovered all of the costumes, bondage, gear, acts, and even being mean or cruel, was about teasing. What I have confirmed since then is the longer and stronger the tease the better. Now this is a bit weird at first but once you get into teasing your man it is empowering. There is nothing like him begging for you. Well actually there is, it is him begging for you and you pretend to give in but at the last minute you don't. Can you see how a fun cycle begins? Now don't be discouraged by how he begs because if you are doing it right he will be frustrated. And he might actually get mad but that is where you need to be strong because you know what is best. After all in his condition his thoughts can't be trusted.

So let me tell you about an early teasing experience I tried. I tied him spread eagle to the bed because that was all I really knew how to do at that point. And fondled him until he got hard for as long as I dared. After that I let him cool down a bit, mostly laying there and touching other parts of his body, sometimes just talking to him, asking him questions about bondage. After awhile the direct teasing would begin again. Each time I made it seem like I was going to finish him. This cycle repeated many times and I learned quite a bit from him about bondage and his fantasies. I got quite worked up myself as well. It must have lasted about 2 hours (very short by my current standards now) and I ended it by getting him (and me) very worked up and then riding him. He reported it to be the most powerful orgasm he had ever had and from his reaction I have no reason to not believe him. And it wasn't to bad for me.