New years resolution

I am starting the new year by making this blog about my new found favorite thing to do. I took so long to realize how much fun I was missing I hope maybe I can maybe be a resource for someone trying to make that leap. My wonderful husband and I had played some bondage games long before we were married and I knew he had a very strong interest, but some how we just stopped playing. I learned recently that he didn't want to push his fantasies and interests on me. He was worried about scaring me I think. I suppose it was a legitimate concern. He was and is very into BDSM.
Our sex life over the years had gone from seldom at best to virtually nothing. Lately our schedules made it easy to blame it on time. He works long hours as a manager in a factory and I work from home. I am usually working when he is home. I think after a very romantic and adventurous start our love life had gotten very boring. He was tired when I was rarely interested and I frankly had lost my sexiness. I had gained a few pounds and was always dressed in sweats. Working from home gets you very lazy about dressing and appearance.
It never has bothered me that he has this interest nor that he will indulge himself on the internet. He has always been faithful and has always been a wonderful husband. In fact, even though it wasn't a secret, he went to great lengths to make sure he never did any of that while I was around. Of course there was the occassional quick change of webpages, but it was rare and I pretended not to notice what he was doing.
He hinted from time to time about BDSM related things to draw out my interest but I discounted (I realized much later) them as jokes and he never pushed it. I barely noticed that he seemed to be getting depressed as I was so involved in my work. Even with his busy hours he took on much of the chores. He cooked most the meals and did much of the laundry and a lot of the cleaning. I know what you are thinking, but it is not like that, he was just being his normal considerate helpful self.
My husband is a wonderful man. He is the nicest person I know. He is very loving and caring and considerate to a fault. We never fought. He would always make sure I had what i wanted and needed and was very selfless. I didn't realize it but I had been taking advantage of him for years. One day I realized I needed to do something special for this wonderful man. It was so obvious. I just needed to figure out how to do it.
About a year or so later I am having the time of my life and so is my husband. The spark is back. We are having so much fun. I am feeling sexier than I did 20 years ago.